Break-up Sex: Have You Had Sex with Your Ex? You Might Be in for a Shocker

Having sex one last time, cuddling, touching and kissing someone you still love passionately and don’t want to lose can leave most people emotionally truamatized. See what experts have to say about break-up sex.

Quite frankly, I’ve never been a fan. Even the definition of break up sex – the last sex you have with a lover after both of you decide to call the relationship off and break up – isn’t appealing.
If I’m about to split from someone who has broken my heart, why on earth would I want the torture of being sexually intimate knowing it’s all about to be taken away from me?
If I’m about to split from someone I now despise or really couldn’t care less about, why would I want to sleep with them one last time?
Because it can be the hottest sex of all, argue fans of break up sex.
If you no longer have to impress your about-to-be ex, you can let loose and have totally uninhibited animal sex that’s purely selfish.
Who cares if they judge you? You’re not dating any more!
Others say it’s like the day before you quit smoking: tomorrow will be painful but today you’re going to enjoy every last drag of that fag.
Some simply think it’s a nicer way to end things.
Do you want your last moment together to be one where you’re both sobbing your hearts out or trading nasty insults…or having great sex and one last cuddle?
Break up sex is sex that’s unfettered by past or future expectations: you’re completely in the moment and that can be intensely freeing for lots of people.
For most though, it’s confusing, sad, depressing and painful.
Tread cautiously if you’re considering it – and make sure you’ve well and truly thought it through.
WHEN BREAK UP SEX CAN BE GOOD IDEA:
It’s an amicable split
If your relationship has just run its course and you’re both happy to walk away, break up sex can be a genuinely sweet ‘one for the road’ way to say goodbye.
Sadly, very few relationships end that way. Most involve one person wanting to leave and the other desperately trying to hang on.
But if you’re one of the lucky few that are separating happily, go for it.
You’ve talked through the terms of your split up
One main problem with having break up sex is that you’ve set a precedent. Are you now going to be friends with benefits?
If you are, how will this affect your future relationships?
It’s all too easy to end up emotionally tethered to an ex you’re still sleeping with.
You need closure
Sometimes we have to go back to move forward.
If the split was hasty and spiteful, meeting up one last time to say a more civilised goodbye can help with the grieving process.
This is often when break up sex ‘just happens’. Subconsciously, you might also do it to check that you both really do want to call it quits.
It’s 100 per cent your choice
Don’t be emotionally manipulated into having sex ‘one last time’ with a bad-news ex who knows how to press all your buttons.
In this scenario, break up sex isn’t going to do you any favours. You’ll just feel used, confused, even more emotional – and hate yourself for giving in.
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